I may be old fashioned, but I believe a person should get to know one another before they have sex. How do you determine the length of time it takes for your characters to know each other well enough to have first time sex?
Dear Tammy R
This is a good question and the simple answer is that the characters determine it. I know that sounds like a little bit of a cop out, so I'll try to explain. There isn't a set amount of time because I don't have a formula for writing my stories. Each set of characters tells their own story. Therefore the amount of time before having first time sex can vary based upon a number of circumstances. If one of my characters is shy and very reserved, then first time sex is most likely going to happen later in the story and it may take the form of initial explorations rather than full on anal sex and they build up to that.
Now, if I have a character like Dante from A Wild Ride who is an adrenaline junky, then the time for
first time sex could be much less. It really all depends on the characters and the story I'm trying to tell. I may have a shy character who rushes into sex and that causes a number of issues that have to be resolved to advance the story. There are a number of variables by and large its the characters themselves that determine how long they wait before having sex.
It is my belief that sex should not be added to a story just to spice it up. It should fit within the story and advance the plot, be part of character development, or advance the relationship between the characters. Sex can also be part of the conflict, but it needs to fit within the story. In short, I agree that when two people get to know each other, the sex is hotter and much more romantic. But that's just my opinion.
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