Maybe I have lead a sheltered life, but don't guys usually douche before
it and is that a given, or do guys have it and just get all dirty? I was
mortified twice when I was the bottom and just had crap everywhere. Is it just
me being paranoid or what? I'm really curious for a 63 year old man who hasn't
had anal sex in a good 10 years and really miss it. (Toys just aren't the
First I have to begin by saying that you're right, toys just aren't the same as having a real person connected and a part of you. Sex is more than the mechanics and great sex is worlds more.
With that said, I better get down to the main portion of your question. Sex is messy and anal sex is messier for a number of reasons including the one you mention in your question. That part of things is rarely mentioned in romance novels for a number of reasons as you can imagine. Hence cleanup is important. Now there is no need to be mortified or embarrassed about a little messiness. Yes it may be unpleasant to think about, but its natural and its going to happen. What's more important is the closeness and intimacy you have with your partner.
Yes, if you would prefer to reduce the chance for extra messiness during anal sex, then douching is an option. But that required extra preparation and forethought. Spontaneity has gone way out the window by this point. My experience has been that using enough lube keeps things slippery enough that messiness is minimized to a good degree. When practicing safe sex, then ensure the condom is well lubricated, that also helps. And if things do get a little messy then make showering together a part of your time with your partner. It adds intimacy and closeness and is a great way to spend that time together when its just the two of you.
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