I have a question also about the use of condoms. In so many M/M books I
have read that many of the relationships just starting out they use condoms for
anal sex BUT they don't use the condoms for oral sex. Isn't oral sex as
dangerous as anal sex?
This was a good question and I had to do some research in order to find an answer. Notice I didn't say the answer because it seems there isn't one answer. However in my research the general consensus is that order sex isn't as dangerous as long as neither partner has open sores. Basically with oral sex it is felt that the various gastric juices will kill any germs and there have been very few reports of HIV being spread through oral sex. I feel as though I have to say that I am not an expert on the spread of disease. (Can't you just hear the disclaimers like they have at the end of drug commercials?)
However I can tell you that MM romance novels are not necessarily a recipe for life. In books most authors use condoms or at least mention condoms for anal sex. Its something that is expected. It isn't necessary to detail the entire process, but they should be mentioned. However for oral sex, I can tell you that there is very little interesting or sexy about sucking on latex. You can flavor those condoms any way you like, but sucking on them is no fun.
Romance novels are fantasy, pure and simple. Nobody wants to kill the fantasy by describing a condom covered blowjob flavored with latex and a hint of chemicals and a picante plastic aftertaste. :) As authors we would rather describe the taste of him so for the most part we forego the use of condoms for oral sex.
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