Tuesday, May 31, 2016

Talking Kink with BA, Julia, Kiernan and Sean


We're talking about kinks today!

What is the strangest kink you've ever written?

BA: Does making a vibrator into a fishing lure count? *grins*

Julia: Hmmm. I tend to be pretty fond of my regular suspects. I like spanking and bondage and voyeurism. I think the strangest on I've ever written is a slave auction. I had a ball with that. 

Kiernan: Sounding. I tell this story all the time. My editor contacted me and said the publisher needed a story for a story on sounds, and was I interested? I said sure -- thinking they meant sounds as in music, dirty talk, etc. After I agreed, I googled it. Oy. I obviously had no idea what sounding was, but to my credit, managed to write a story. LOL

Sean: Probably prostate milking (In Briar Rose: Controlling Parker)


What is the strangest kink you've ever heard of?

BA: Oculingus --eyeball licking. O.o 
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=oculingus

Julia: Crowning. Blame Sean and BA. Look it up. O.O

Kiernan: Oh, brother. There are so many to choose from! Balloons are a good one. People get off rubbing on them.  Eyeball-licking is another one. Mechanophilia is getting aroused by having sex with machinery. Some folks like to have sex with cars. Not in them...with them. As in humping the exhaust pipe.  Or vacuum cleaners. Talk about a suck job!

Sean: Well, honestly, I think scat and golden showers are very, very strange (and totally not sexy)


What kink did you used to think was really hard core, but now doesn't seem as hard core?

BA: Hrm...urethral sounding, I think. I used to think that was the wildest thing ever and now it's just sort of yummy. ;-)

Julia: Fisting. I mean, I know it's dangerous and I rarely write it anymore unless I write it in a paranormal, but for a while there every m/m book had to have a fisting in it, so it got old hat.

Kiernan: Fisting. Back in the day, I used to think that was as kinky as one could get. Now, it's been written so often it's almost blasé compared to relatively more cutting edge (pun intended) fetishes like knife play and branding.  

Sean: All of them. I used to think fisting was super kinky, then sounding. Then pony play... that bar just keeps on moving the more I write.

Got questions? Send them on!

You can find us on Twitter at @seanmichael09, @juliatalbot, @batortuga and @KiernanKelly

Sean’s website is http://www.seanmichaelwrites.com
Julia’s is http://www.juliatalbot.com
 BA’s is http://www.batortuga.com
Kiernan's is www.KiernanKelly.com

Facebook:
Sean -- https://www.facebook.com/SeanMichaelWrites
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BA -- https://www.facebook.com/batortuga
Kiernan -- https://www.facebook.com/kiernan.kelly


Sean
smut fixes everything

Monday, May 30, 2016

Which of Your Books Should I Read First? by Cardeno C.


Readers sometimes ask which of my books they should read first. All of my books are standalones that can be read in any order so the answer doesn’t relate to a specific book in a collection. Instead, I suggest choosing a book based on what interests you. Here are descriptions to help you choose.

Paranormal (Shifter) Stories

  • If you want Alpha/Omega dynamics and a hurt/comfort theme, choose Blue Mountain.
  • Two untraditional Alphas, some misunderstandings, and a baby. If you like MPreg, Red River is the one for you.
  • If you enjoy Alpha/Alpha relationships, an enemies-to-lovers overlay, and a clueless narrator whose heart is in the right place, if only he can find it, try In Your Eyes.
  • Wake Me Up Inside gives you childhood friends to lovers, a male, human mate - two things that aren’t possible, and a powerful Alpha who risks everything for his beloved.
  • In Until Forever Comes, you’ll get Alpha/Omega dynamics with a powerful vampire and a sickly, strong-hearted wolf shifter who go against their cultures and their histories to be together.
  • All of Me: Two Alpha shifters bonded in childhood and torn apart when they were supposed to be together get another chance, more than a little hurt/comfort in this one.
  • Lion shifters, Alpha/Omega dynamics, hurt/comfort, and redemptions - Johnnie.

Contemporary Stories

  • If you’re interested in dirty talk and a character who experiences personal growth, go with The Half of Us.
  • If you want a contemporary childhood-friends-to-lovers, and a relationship-that-falls-apart-before-it-blooms, with a snarky narrator who gets his men (plural intentional), try More Than Everything.
  • If you like opposites attract stories and an imperfect hero who could use a harsh wake up call and gets it, consider my contemporary novel Something in the Way He Needs.
  • If hurt/comfort is your thing, you like your heroes, big, strong, and sweet, and enjoy an age gap, Strong Enough is a good choice.
  • A snarky, foul-mouthed, highly-sexed never-going-to-settle-down playboy meets his match in a patient virgin. If an opposites attract story with a smoking high heat level is your thing, read He Completes Me.
  • In Home Again you get a mix of childhood-friends-to-lovers and lovers reunited.
  • A coming out story, a finding yourself story, a building a family story, a holding onto love story - Just What the Truth Is.
  • Love at First Sight - an older/younger pairing with a touch of hurt/comfort, a high dose of sex, and, as the title promises, love at first sight.
  • In The One Who Saves Me our childhood friends become lovers early on, but the relationship comes much later. If reading about true, deep, lifelong friendship is your thing, try this book.
  • If a contemporary book could have fated mates, it would be Where He Ends & I Begin. These best friends since birth realize they both want a relationship at the beginning of the novel - see how two men who have always been in love fall even deeper.
  • Walk With Me is my version of a romantic comedy, friends-to-lovers style.
  • Perfect Imperfections: A rock star romance with a slow burn and a bit of a “marriage of convenience” feel.
  • Enemies to lovers on one side, an unrequited crush on the other, and a lot of comfort needed for past hurts in between: A Shot at Forgiveness
  • Take one clueless movie star, add in a loyal-to-a-fault best friend, and mix them in a night where the past is seen in a different light and you get love in Places in Time.
  • Two redemption novellas in one volume - In Another Life has two men who fall in love not once, but twice, and Eight Days has two boys who fall in love but need to grow into men before they recognize it.
  • Opposites attract when a quiet, gentle giant of a farmer takes on a party boy in need of redemption in McFarland’s Farm.
  • Jesse’s Diner: An age gap romance with a shy young man who doesn’t realize he is being seduced by his best friend’s hunky dad.
  • In Strange Bedfellows, two late 30s/early 40s men who were raised to be enemies meet and realize their hearts and dreams overshadow politics.
  • Humor, a long-standing crush that finally gets requited, and two sexy Alphas - Jumping In.

I added this list to my website and I'll keep it updated as I have new releases.

Have a terrific week!

CC
www.cardenoc.com

Saturday, May 28, 2016

My belated epiphany by Renae Kaye



I just had an epiphany.  It was amazing.

(Seriously – I have a book coming at the end of the year with a character that has epiphanies.  So I’m feeling very Vinnie-like at the moment.)

The epiphany I had involves a little of my history.  I’m not sure why I didn’t see it before!  I claim baby brain, although my youngest is six…

Anyway, to take you back to my you’ve-become-a-responsible-adult period of my life.  I was young and studying full-time (40 hours) at university.  I’d just started dating the man who I’d end up marrying.  I was also working 25 hours a week.  Hubby was also studying full-time and working about the same amount of hours. (At the same place!  Workplace romances at the best.)  It was hard and I was struggling to fit in the study and the work as well as a social life, but luckily I was living at home and Mum was there to help with the meals and washing.

Hubby and I figured out early in our relationship that we’d found someone special, and we decided to move in together.  But I didn’t want to rent, which meant we had to save enough for a house and commit to a mortgage.  We weren’t earning enough with our two part-time jobs for a bank loan, so I made one of the best decisions of my life.  I quit university and went out and found a full-time job.

After 6 months, we’d saved enough and had enough credit history to sink our dough into a house.  It was a small, run-down house in a not-so-good suburb.  But we could (just) afford the mortgage with our 1.5 salaries and we were determined.

(Hubby then broke his ankle and was unable to work for over six weeks, but that’s another story.) 

For the next 18 months we worked it hard.  Hubby finished studying, found a trainee apprenticeship and went to work full-time.  With both of us working, we often were tired and fought about dumb things – whose turn was it to do the dishes/cooking/washing and who worked harder than the other.  The house was rundown, and so any extra money we had went on renovations – and those take time and effort.  Time went by.  Hubby quit his job and found a better one, with more pay.  I changed jobs for less stress and more money.  Hubby was made redundant, then found a better job.

We worked, we saved, we were tired.  My job especially was one that required horrendous hours one week a month, so I would come home grumpy and would bitch about the mess.

Then, around the time we got married, I quit my job.  I looked at hubby with his nice salary and said, “Do you know what?  I’m not going to find a full-time job.  We’re planning on trying for a baby, and I don’t need the stress of another full-time job.  I’m going to find a part-time one.”

BEST. DECISION. EVER.

And this is why I can’t believe I never saw it before.  I often tell people that our relationship was 600% better once I had a part-time job.  I worked 26 hours a week over four days.  It meant I was home an hour earlier than hubby each week day, and would clean up the house and have dinner started by the time he got home.  It also meant I had one day a week to do all of those jobs like grocery shopping, laundry, cleaning.  It left our weekends free, stopped our petty fights about whose turn it was for the dishes and left me so less stressed.

I advocate for couples to spend less time at work, and lessen the stress on their relationship.  I’m happy to be the one who takes on the greater burden of housework and only work part-time.  I believe that people are obsessed with material possessions, and should take a step back from that drive to earn more-more-more so they can have more-more-more.

So what’s my epiphany?  Somewhere along the way I stopped applying this to my life.  Nine years ago I stopped working when I had my first child.  Then I had another.  I raised the children and did the housework, while hubby worked full-time.  Anyone with children will realise that being a mother can be a full-time job in itself.

Financially we were a bit stretched, and hubby said that when our youngest hit school, I should go out and find a small job for a bit of extra cash.  I chose to try and build myself a career from writing.  Instead of working 10 hours a week at a job outside the home, I’m putting in about 30 hours a week to writing.


But wow.  Hang on.  If mothering is a full-time job (and I’m nodding very hard here) and the housework now includes cooking and cleaning for four people, and on top of that I’ve added 30 hours of writing work… I’m working the equivalent of 1.5 full-time jobs.  Oh, wow.  No wonder I’m frazzled.

I often see authors who mention their Significant Other in terms of them supporting their writing by “helping out” with some of the paperwork side.  Their husbands accompany them to signings, assist with shipping, format their documents, upload to Amazon, and keep an eye on sales.  I’m “totes jelly” over it.  My hubby is a wonderful man, but everything to do with writing is not his thing.  Ask him to build an aquarium stand using only the material from an old, large wooden crate – he did it.  Ask him to build a retaining wall – he did it.  Ask him to paint the house, install insulation, retile the bathroom, lay flooring, pave the patio area, install curtaining, service the car, remodel the kitchen, or design and build a retic system for the garden… Pft!  Did you want that done today, or next weekend?

So I limp along, knowing he doesn’t understand a single thing I worry about.  And I keep it to myself.  And I probably keep it to myself about how much work I actually do.  Because it’s never occurred to me that I’m probably working too hard. 

I need to give myself a break – not only an actual break, but also not be so hard on myself.  I need to stop comparing myself to authors who are either single persons or have a support network that allows them to disappear into their writing cave for fourteen hours.  I need to stop thinking about how many words per hour this author writes compared to me.  I guess I need to stop comparing full-stop.

I write this blog for my own satisfaction, but also for anyone who tries to compare themselves negatively to others.  Maybe you don’t have the full picture.  You see that mother at the school with four kids who are always dressed impeccably and a full-time job… but you don’t realise her mother lives with her and can take care of the cleaning and ironing.  You see your workmate who earns the same amount as you, but has rocked up to work in a brand new BMW… but you don’t realise their father gave them the money.  You see your friend has lost another 5kgs while you’re still struggling with the first two… but you don’t realise that their body is different to yours and they have a different lifestyle to you.

Let’s stop being so hard on ourselves, okay?   There’s enough in this world to worry about and people who will hassle us without unnecessarily adding to it.  Happy weekend. *hugs*

How to contact Renae:
Twitter:  @renaekkaye

Thursday, May 26, 2016

Odd and Ends by Riley Hart


Hello! First, I wanted to let you know I'll be signing books at The Ripped Bodice with Felice Stevens this weekend. If you live in Southern California, we'd love it if you could come out! We're really excited. For those of you who don't know, they're the first romance only bookstore!




Next, it's only FOUR more days until TEST DRIVE is here. I fell in love hard writing Justin and Drew's book. I'm really excited for you guys to get the chance to read it. The preorder is live on Amazon. You can find it HERE.



A double shot of devastating news turns Justin Evanson’s life upside down. When he learns his father has cancer, and he has siblings he never knew existed, he leaves everything behind and moves to Virginia to support his dad as he tries to make amends with his family—a family Justin’s not sure he has a place in. Things go from bad to worse when he discovers his recent hookup is his newfound sister’s brother-in-law.

Drew Sinclair never expected to see Justin after their night at the club or to discover their family connection. If anyone found out, it would give Drew’s brother another reason to hate him. But there’s something about Justin that draws him in, and it’s not only because they burn up the sheets together.

One meeting leads to another, and before Justin realizes it, Drew has become the only thing in his world he feels is his. And for the first time in his life, Drew knows what it means to be needed. Being there for Justin and supporting him when things spiral out of control feels right. But with so much happening so quickly, it’s hard to trust their feelings. Is this thing between them real? Or just a test drive before life forces them down two separate roads?

Wednesday, May 25, 2016

The People Behind the Author - Andrew Grey


A Thank You Note

This blog post is dedicated to the people who make the author look good!!!   Each of the authors you love has a number of people behind them to help make their work shine.  These include the editors and cover artists that you'd expect, but there are also layout people and production people who help put the books at the various locations so they can be sold.  And when there's a problem, the post production people help correct it.  This is true for authors with a publisher or self published authors because they either do it themselves or they have help because the sheer number of tasks can be overwhelming sometimes. 

No one is good at everything and publishing requires a lot of different skills.  For those self published authors who are able to manage the entire process themselves, I applaud you.  For many of us, we have help and this post is to say thank you!  To everyone out there who works with the author to help make what we do better, I want to say that I appreciate all your efforts and hard work.  Its your behind the scenes work that makes all of us look good and delivers the books that readers want.

So thank you very much from the bottom of my heart!!!!!   And now I'm off to create more work for you.  :)

Ask Andrew is your chance to ask questions of a gay romance author.  The questions can be about the writing process in general, writing sex scenes, gay men, sex, characters in romance, characters having sex... okay you probably get the picture.    I promise to answer your questions as frankly and with as much humor as I possibly can.

So if you have a question, please send it to andrewgreybooks@comcast.net.  This is different from my usual email so your questions don't get lost.  I will answer one question a week.

Please remember this is meant to be all in fun.  (I was going to say good, clean fun, but who wants that.)    So send me your questions and let's see what mischief we can get into.

Visit Andrew on Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/andrewgreybooks  and you can join Andrew's fan group All The Way With Andrew Grey.

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Tuesday, May 24, 2016

Q&A Plot vs sex with BA, Julia, Sean and Kiernan


Hey y'all!

The question this week is. "Can you have plot and lots of sex in the same story?"

Sean says, "The answer to this for me is an unequivocal yes. I don't see the two as mutually exclusive at all. You can have a little sex and plot, or a lot of sex and plot. In fact, I bet a story could be all sex and still have a plot. Sex can further the story as much as any other kind of scene can."

From Kiernan: Of course you can have sex and plot. Sex can drive the plot, help develop the relationship between the characters, and even offer up a ready-made conflict for the story. But mostly because, you know...sex. Naked sex. Pushed up against the wall sex. Out in the backyard sex in full view of the neighbors and garden gnomes sex. Sex in a barn, on a plane, on a train. See? Sex. Oh, and plot. plot is good, too.

BA has feels: We're writers. We can have whatever the fuck we want. That's why it's fiction.

I love plot. I love sex. I love plotty sex (which autocorrected to potty sex which is TOTALLY not what I typed, thank you very much). I love wham bam no reason but the fucking sex. I love a meaty plot wherein there isn't a hint of sex at all. I love reading and writing and I have zero idea why this has to be so complicated. We're telling stories. We're scaring and spooking and falling in love and goofing off and intriguing and making people laugh.

Or at least that's what I'm trying to do.

Loving books is my world -- sexy, boring, silly, scary, stupid, harsh, intense, fluffy, light and dark and all the colors of the rainbow.

Remember, this is joy. Write what makes you happy. Read what makes you happy. Let the rest go.

And also, much love, y'all.

Julia has a cray cray moment:

Runs around in circles beating herself on the head.

Ahhhhh! If one more person tells me sex cannot co-exist with plot I will shoot something with a bazooka. Oh, man, I wish I had a bazooka. But the answer is yes, of course. Now, sometimes a story is just about the sex. Sometimes that's what the call asks for. Sometimes that's what the characters call for. I love how, in Sean Micahel's Jarheads series, for example, sex is how the boys communicate. That's the only way they do. Then there are my shifters, for whom sex is a political, establishing their place in the pack. I know not everyone loves lots of sex, but there's a book for everyone! Let's not hate on what someone else loves to read!

Plus, I really like spanking...

XXOO, Much love, and all the rest

The Tuesday Crew

Got questions? Send them on!

You can find us on Twitter at @seanmichael09, @juliatalbot, @batortuga and @KiernanKelly

Sean’s website is http://www.seanmichaelwrites.com

Julia’s is http://www.juliatalbot.com BA’s is http://www.batortuga.com

Kiernan's is www.KiernanKelly.com

Facebook:

Sean -- https://www.facebook.com/SeanMichaelWrites

Julia -- https://www.facebook.com/juliatalbotauthor

BA -- https://www.facebook.com/batortuga

Kiernan -- https://www.facebook.com/kiernan.kelly

Hugs

Julia

Monday, May 23, 2016

Totally Peachy by Cardeno C.


Happy Monday! My week is off to a peachy start. Literally. My peach tree had a great crop this year and every peach seemed to get ripe at once so I had a lot of picking to do!

With this many peaches, I knew I'd have to do some freezing if I wanted to use them before they went bad. That meant a day of peeling skin and cutting the fruit. My hands were tired by the end but I have a few ziplock bags of fruit ready for whatever I want to make.

Plus, I have some disks of peach pulp that I can drop into an iced tea pitcher.

And my dad even joined the party and made this great jam.



After that, I asked for ideas on what to make. Baked good seemed to be the number one recommendation but after all the peach peeling and chopping, I was too tired to deal with pie crust so I went for this strudel using puff pastry, which I had in my freezer. I cut down the sugar quite a bit so that it could be eaten with ice cream and not be too sweet. It turned out great!






Next up - my apple tree is ready for picking!

Have a peachy week.

CC
www.cardenoc.com

Saturday, May 21, 2016

Sit down and shh! by Renae Kaye



Sit down and shut up, you don’t know what you’re talking about

Last night an ad came on TV from the Australian Government.  It was an ad aimed at stamping out violence against women.  It gave some subtle scenarios we encounter as children that “set the scene” for us accepting violence against women in our adult life.

#1 – A girl (about 8 years old) is following a group of children out a door.  A boy slams the door before she can exit, making her fall.  The adult comes over and says, “Don’t worry.  It’s just because he likes you.”

#2 – A girl and boy (about 10 years old) are throwing a ball between them.  The adult turns around and says to the boy, “Don’t throw like a girl!”

My husband turned to me and said, “I don’t get it.  Why are they using children?”  I explained about how girls are reminded subtly daily to accept that “boys will be boys” and that boys are superior.  I explained how telling a boy that he throws like a girl is just reminding both sexes that to be a girl is shameful and inferior.

I’m embarrassed to admit my husband scoffed at this and turned away.  I had to make sure he understood the message, because we have a daughter.  We have a son.  Both need to learn that they cannot use this sort of behaviour as they grow.  I made sure my husband understood that we can never intimate to our children that they are allowed to use force or violence, or accept force or violence, as a way of saying, “I love you.”

I’m not sure I got through to him.

It also reminded me of how my husband’s upbringing was very male orientated.  He had no sisters, no female cousins.  It was very masculine and without thought about the troubles girls have as they’re growing up.  He doesn’t know what it’s like to not be taken seriously because of his gender, to be talked over because he’s female, to not be allowed to give an opinion because his female thoughts can’t be trusted, to have any upset be put down to hormonal problems, or to be discounted from anything logical because he has a vagina.

He doesn’t know what it’s like to have no authority, no respect, no power.  And in any situation where he did feel this way, he simply said, “F*ck this shit” and walked away to find a situation that was more agreeable.

Me?  I’ve been told to sit down and shut up because I don’t know what I’m talking about, basically my whole life.

For a start, I’m the youngest in a very large family.  My oldest sibling is 18 years older than me.  From the very beginning of my life I was made aware that I didn’t and could never know as much as my brothers and sisters.  They were all older and more experienced than me.

Sit down and shut up, Renae.  Your sisters and brothers know better.

Secondly, I’m a girl.  My parents are very old fashioned.  I’ve been reminded not to be loud, not to be boisterous, not to be tom-boyish my whole life.  Being quiet and still and feminine was how I was meant to be.  Leave the talking and the intellectual stuff to the boys.

I have been fighting that my whole life.  I’m one of these weird people who are both an introvert and extrovert.  I’m an introvert/extrovert.  We’re around.  There’s not too many of us.  Most people would peg me as an extrovert, because when I’m in public, I’m very loud and friendly.  I’m comfortable approaching strangers, starting a conversation, carrying a conversation, and speaking up.  Most of the time I see myself as an introvert, because I’d rather stay in my house and not speak to people.  The truth is, I’m both.  When I’m out, I can display those extroverted traits.  But I can only do it for so long, and then I need to retreat to my safe place and recharge those batteries.

So, when I’m out of the house, I’m not quiet.  I’m not someone who allows the boys to talk just because they’re boys.  I will join in.  I will give my opinion.  I will argue if they’re wrong.  I don’t need a man to speak for me.  But I’ve often been ignored.

Sit down and shut up, Renae.  There’s a boy talking.

I can’t change that I’m the youngest in my family.  My sisters and brothers will always be older.  Several years back, when my father had terminal cancer, it was demonstrated to me that they still see me as the one who knows nothing.  It was an emotional time for us all, I know.  But incidents showed me … well, let’s just say that I was excluded from the important events because my opinion and knowledge was discounted as worthless.  In their stress and grief, my family fell back on old ways, which was to ignore me.  As you may be able to tell, I’m still angry and hurt by it.

Even in school there were a number of ways I was told that I was “abnormal” and “not a girl” by my actions.  I excelled at science and maths, and would usually be one of only three or four girls in a class of thirty.  I would hear the boys say, “Don’t let Renae get top marks again.  We don’t want to be beaten by a girl.”  Or the Principal would say, “And Renae got the top marks, and she’s a girl!”

You see, along with that introvert/extrovert personality I have, I also have a flip-flop temper (I get blistering angry, but will be over it in two minutes) and a tenacity that doesn’t let go.  I get hurt very easily, but will come back to try again and again.

It took me 35 years to give up on my brothers and sisters.  I kept coming back again and again to try to prove to them I was finally an adult.  It was only Dad’s funeral that showed me I was just hurting myself.  They will never see me as a person in my own right.  It’s the curse of being the youngest.

A couple of years ago I decided to become an author.  Shit.  What a way to ask for everyone’s opinion!  LOL.  Since then I’ve had a lot of feedback and thank everyone for it.  There are some lovely reviews that I’ve had which encourage and inspire me to write more.

But then I get the few that tell me to sit down and shut up.  I don’t know what I’m talking about.  They hurt.  Ask any author who’s been told “you got it wrong” and they will tell you it hurts.  And a lot of the time I can take it at face value – it’s a correction of something I may’ve got wrong.  But some reviews… well, they hurt.

Like the reader who told me my characters don’t speak like Australians, so they think that I’m not Australian and obviously faking it.  Or the person who told me it’s not like that in America, so I must be wrong (and then gave me one star). 

Sit down and shut up, Renae.  You have no idea what you’re talking about.

I’m still smarting from that review.  My author friends will tell me (A.) not to read reviews, (B.) take no notice of the bad reviews, and (C.) write what I like.   I know the theory.  But it’s hard to put into practice.

The weeks leading up to a new release and the weeks after it are usually a little scatty for me.  Nerves means I have trouble concentrating on a task and I usually jump from story to story in my writing.  My newest release hasn’t gone well.  Which makes it disappointing to me.  So the self-analysis meter is ticking furiously on overtime.  What did I do wrong?  Why didn’t people want to buy this book?  What could I have done differently?  It starts the doubts.  I want to write stuff that people like.  I want people to feel happy after reading one of my books.

The defeatist part of me says to, “Sit down and shut up, Renae.  You shouldn’t be writing.  You’re a fool to think you could write.”  But the other optimist part of me says, “Don’t worry about it.  The next book will be okay.  Don’t quit yet.”

But it has meant I’ve been second guessing my work.  The story I’m writing at the moment involves an older man.  Older than I’ve ever written before.   My much younger MC finds him attractive, even though he’s not in the first flush of youth.  My MC wants to describe my older MC, flaws and all.  Because he finds those parts attractive.  But my defeatist brain is warning me off.  Don’t write him like that.  Readers won’t like it.

You don’t know what you’re talking about.

I guess, with authoring, this is one of the truest AND untruest things someone can say.  Because who other than the author can know exactly what is going through a character’s mind?  So when my MC sees his older lover naked and is attracted to him, how can someone tell me I’m wrong?

How can you know what a young, gay man thinks?  You’re off your rocker, Renae.

True.  This is something I will never be.  So I can only imagine.

There is no answer.  But, just like telling me that I’m only a girl and I shouldn’t be loud didn’t work in shutting me up, telling my brain to stop creating stories isn’t going to make these stories stop coming.  It may stop me writing the stories down and distributing them, but if every author stopped writing when one person told them they were wrong, where would this world be?  Bereft of stories.  If we told our girls that they were inferior and they should always sit down and be quiet, where would this world be?  Bereft of half our collective intelligence.   If the younger generation are never trusted or believed to be able to obtain the knowledge of the ones who came before them, where would we be?  Going backwards in our learning.

So for every author who has been told they don’t know what they’re talking about, please don’t stop trying.  Your stories fire our imagination, soothe our troubles, inspire us to be more and make us laugh.

For every student that has been told they’ll never know it all, don’t stop trying to learn. 

For every person who was told they shouldn’t reach for their dreams, dream some more and then reach for the stars.

And for every girl who was told they were not as good as a boy because of their gender, f*ck that shit.


Friday, May 20, 2016

Turning Up the Heat by Felice Stevens


When I first decided to write Gay Romance, I wasn't sure how "hot" I wanted my books to be. I was never a dedicated erotic romance reader, but I liked my sex in my books. It's one thing to read it, but another to write it, I can tell you that for certain. 

In many of the writing loops and groups I belong to, authors who don't write or read romance, especially gay romance, often immediately equate it with erotic romance or even erotica. Without any evidence to support their claims, they assume if it's romance it doesn't have a plot or a storyline; it is simply sex scene after sex scene with a bit of a story.

I've never disliked writing sex scenes, but I'm not talking about inserting tab A into  slot B. I mean the emotion of the words, the feelings generated by the characters that make that particular time necessary and important to the development of those characters. I love writing the first kiss or the first time a couple makes love. It makes for highly emotional writing.

I've noticed as I've grown in my writing, I've also come to write my love scenes with more heat. It isn't that I write more sex scenes, it is that the sex is more intense and highly charged between the couple. And I'm kind of liking it, I have to admit. I don't for a second believe that a romance needs explicit sex or even any sex scenes in it to be a real romance. Georgette Heyer wrote some of the best romances without sex scenes, after all. But for me, I enjoy experimenting with differing levels of heat in my stories.

As women learn to embrace sexuality, feeling freer than ever to read erotic romance and gay romance and embrace watching gay porn, we have matured, and have animated discussions about sex on line with other women and men. Personally, these conversations make up some of my most favorite interactions on line.

It's funny to me because I believed my last book, Learning to Love was my highest heat level book; others have told me it was more emotional than sexual. That may be true. Gideon and Jonah have a unique connection; they are two halves of a whole, with sex being a very important part of their relationship.


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Wednesday, May 18, 2016

Ask Andrew - My Muse


Dear Andrew

How often does your muse distract you from day to day mutiniae?"

Dawn

Dear Dawn

Oscar is sometimes a very demanding muse.  When it comes to day to day tasks, he doesn't give two hoots and a holler.  Heck when he's active in a big way I sometimes forget to eat and drink.  I sit behind my computer and work with very little awareness of what's going on around me.  I have written as much as nine or ten thousand words in a single day and when I'm done, I often feel like I have been on a long trip and am returning home.  That doesn't happen very often.  However once, I was working away and the screen started to swim and my head felt funny.  When I told Dominic how I was feeling he started practically pouring water down my throat because I hadn't stopped to eat or drink all day and I was dehydrated.

Both Oscar and I are very lucky that we have the world's most amazing husband.  He takes care of a lot of the every day things so that Oscar can be as active as he is. 

Now Oscar hasn't always bene so healthy  Those last few months at my evil day job nearly killed him. He was on lie support by the time I was able to leave.  But now he's healthy and robust. 

Hugs and Love
Andrew

Ask Andrew is your chance to ask questions of a gay romance author.  The questions can be about the writing process in general, writing sex scenes, gay men, sex, characters in romance, characters having sex... okay you probably get the picture.    I promise to answer your questions as frankly and with as much humor as I possibly can.

So if you have a question, please send it to andrewgreybooks@comcast.net.  This is different from my usual email so your questions don't get lost.  I will answer one question a week.

Please remember this is meant to be all in fun.  (I was going to say good, clean fun, but who wants that.)    So send me your questions and let's see what mischief we can get into.

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Tuesday, May 17, 2016

Writing caves with BA, Sean, Julia and Kiernan


Hey, y'all!

We thought we'd share our writing spaces with you this week! 

First up is Sean Michael's writing chair and view from said chair!



Next up is the colorful lair of Kiernan Kelly 




And finally BA at her station and Julia's station at Chez Jortuga









Got questions? Send them on!

You can find us on Twitter at @seanmichael09, @juliatalbot, @batortuga and @KiernanKelly

Sean’s website is http://www.seanmichaelwrites.com

Julia’s is http://www.juliatalbot.com BA’s is http://www.batortuga.com

Kiernan's is www.KiernanKelly.com

Facebook:

Sean -- https://www.facebook.com/SeanMichaelWrites

Julia -- https://www.facebook.com/juliatalbotauthor

BA -- https://www.facebook.com/batortuga

Kiernan -- https://www.facebook.com/kiernan.kelly

Hugs

Julia

Monday, May 16, 2016

Twitter Recap 05.16.16 by Cardeno C.


Happy Monday! It's been a while since I last did a Twitter recap so here goes.
Have a terrific week.

CC
www.cardenoc.com