Monday, November 17, 2014

The Question I’m Most Frequently Asked by Cardeno C.

I love interacting with readers and one way to do that is through interviews. When a blogger asks to interview me, I always have the same set of reactions: 

  1. What an honor! Yes, yes, yes! 
  2. Wait. What can I possibly say that sounds interesting and funny and charming and inspirational and brilliant and .... Do they know I'm an average bordering on boring person who sits in my house all day typing? Unless we're going to talk about my caffeine choices, they'll regret asking me because this will be the most dull interview of all time.
  3. Which brings me to the last thought: What will we talk about? What will they ask me?
There are a bunch of different questions that come up, but the one I get most frequently (which means people must really want to know the answer) is: Why do you write gay romance novels?

Before I share my answer with you, I want to share a quote by the composer Leonard Bernstein from a December 31, 1972 interview with the LA Times:

"The point is, art never stopped a war and never got anybody a job. That was never its function. Art cannot change events. But it can change people. It can affect people so that they are changed ...because people are changed by art - enriched, ennobled, encouraged - they then act in a way that may affect the course of the way they vote, they behave, the way they think."

I started writing in this genre because I felt like so many movies and shows have gay characters who were killed or hurt or deeply miserable. After seeing this over and over again, I felt like it was a punishment, like these people weren't allowed to be happy and healthy and strong and gay. And I’m talking about movies where the gay characters are the main characters, movies targeted toward a gay/welcoming audience. That artistic depiction of life doesn't match what I see in the world around me. And it doesn't match what I want to see in the world around me.

Yes, there are tragedies and sadness and family trouble. Those things are real and true. But my life experience is that people as a whole are resilient and strong. I see people move past the hard times and make their own happy futures. I see people learn and grow and build lives and communities and families around them. I see people who use their experience and wisdom to make choices that allow them to live the kinds of lives they want on their terms and to be satisfied and happy with those lives. I see people who work every day to change the world around us for the better and I see those people succeeding. That’s my reality and I wanted to create art where I could share it and, hopefully, do my small part to encourage people to make it true.

And before I sign off for this week, I want to let you know that a few really kind readers set up a Facebook page for readers to discuss my books. If you're interested in taking part, you can find them here.



  1. This choice to focus on the optimistic side of life is what I love most in your stories and makes them so special and heartwarming! Being guided by inspiring thoughts like this helps to understand where part of your motivation comes from

  2. I see the kind of people you mention, those who are positive and want to change the world for the better, in this community of writers. They're also in the special needs community. I struggle to see as many positively-oriented people in some other areas of my life.

    1. I do love being part of this community. :)

  3. <3 <3 You do a brilliant job CC. <3 <3