Wednesday, December 9, 2015

Ask Andrew - Does It Really Fit - Andrew Grey

Dear Andrew

In almost every M/M book I read, there are scenes that have one man holding both cocks and rubbing them against each other. I invariably hold my fingers together and there's no way two could fit, even when I consider that the fingers could be an inch longer than mine. So I guess my question is how is it really done and does the hand only cover part? Books seem to indicate that one hand completely covers both.

This really is driving me nuts and it takes me out of the book with all my hand and finger twisting. Help?


Dear Andrea

This does seem to be a popular activity in some MM books. and I have to tell you that one hand rarely makes it all the way around.  What's really important is that both cocks are rubbing against each other.  Personally, I have never found this particular activity particularly enjoyable, but that's just me.  Maybe others really like it. 

I also must question the real life application of this particular activity and I'm going to refer this to the other gayboys out there so they can weigh in, but its my thought that this is mainly something with its origins in the adult film industry.   You see this happening a lot in porn, but I don't know how often guys do it in real life.  Maybe I'm missing something.  Hmmmmm.

One last thing for you is to remember that what's described in books is often for effect.  Its to give a feeling of excitement of extreme interest and attraction.   I know that sometimes something will pull a reader out of the story and I hate that as well, but I try to remember the emotions of the moment and sometimes discount part of the mechanics. 

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1 comment:

  1. Thanks so much for answering my question. I have to laugh though. If the purpose is to convey emotions my poor brain didn't get the message. However, now I'll read those scenes and know their purpose and maybe enjoy them more instead of doing digital acrobatics. I appreciate the honesty of your answer and its good to know that most hands don't just easily wrap around. Also, I agree with you that it doesn't really seem all that erotic.